Friday, October 8, 2010

Raising your boys in Unbelief or Faith?

I really enjoyed Doug Wilson's book "Future Men" on raising boys.  It is one of the best parenting books i have ever read and recommend it highly.  From the intro:

"The faith exhibited by wise parents of boys is the faith of a farmer, or a sculptor, or anyone else engaged in the work of shaping unfolding possibilities. It is not the faith of someone waiting around for lightening to strike; it is the faith of someone who looks at the present and sees what it will become- through grace and good works.

Countless examples may be multiplied from any given day in the life of a small boy. Say a boy breaks a chair because he was jumping on it from the bunk bed. Unbelief sees the cost of replacing the chair. Faith sees aggressiveness and courage, both of which obviously need to be directed and disciplined. Suppose a boy gets into a fight protecting his sister. Unbelief sees the lack of wisdom that created a situation that could have been easily avoided; faith sees an immature masculinity that is starting to assume the burden of manhood.

Unbelief squashes; faith teaches. Faith takes a boy aside, and tells him that this part of what he did was good, while that other part of what he did got in the way. "And this is how to do it better next time."

This issue of fighting provides a good example of how necessary such distinctions are. Of course parents do not want to encourage fighting in their sons. Neither do they want to encourage abdication and cowardice. There are times when men have to fight. (page 10)"

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